What Brené Brown taught me about what matters more
I recently read a quote from Brené Brown that stopped me in my tracks. It's from her book Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead,
"What we know matters but who we are matters more."
We live in a world drunk and confused on two dynamic battlegrounds: our knowledge and our identities. Between selfie sticks, bloated GPAs, and scratching and clawing to prove our indispensable worth to bosses, friends, and even strangers, we lose a life of energy fighting to maintain what's already secure.
Your success is not who you are. Your failure is not who you are.
Your kids, your house, your car, your job, your sphere of influence, your intellect, your church, your causes, your friends, and your family, love 'em or hate 'em, are not you.
What you feel may be a reflection of who you are, but even our emotions are coy and deceiving.
What you think may be a reflection of who you are, but our minds are easily deceived and wickedly biased.
The way you keep and carry yourself may be a reflection of who you are, but mirrors and scales are two of life's biggest liars.
You are you because you are loved.
You are you because you have a chance to brighten someone's day.
You are you because you are here on purpose for a purpose.
You are you because even the best of you is still a work in progress... and that's a really good thing.
In the words of Dr. Seuss,
"Today you are you, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is youer than you.”
Who you are matters far more than anything you will ever or could ever do. It's exhausting to try leveraging what you know and what you can do in lieu of who you already are in God's eyes.
May you find rest and joy in who you already are and who you're called to be today.